for the last 8 years i had lived and worked in california and oregon. ive taken care of myself but had to move back to michigan this year due to the pandemic. (it had made work and housing difficult).
while living with my folks again ive undergone emotional and verbal abuse, and i have reason to believe that i could be physically abused if i tell them "no" or confront them in any way. i have such verbal abuse toeing physical abuse on record and witnesses.
i am currently working full time at a restaurant and am supporting myself and my 3 rabbits. my rabbits are domesticated house rabbits and for the last 2 years of their lives theyve lived in a house around people.
my parents after i moved back demanded that i keep my rabbits in their small cages, out in my dads toolshed.
im looking for housing elsewhere ASAP for my rabbits' health more so than mine
my folks have stated that they would help me find a place and help with deposit and the first three months of rent, but after my folks' decided that they werent going to help me ship my things from oregon back to michigan (re: #RabbitRoadTrip2021 ) (they not only lied to be they lied to my previous roommates)
i feel they will lie again
at the moment, i depend on them keeping their word since i dont have enough saved right now,
theyve shown themselves to not be trustworthy
ive calculated that i need $1043 saved for deposit and rent come august 1st, please help me leave. im honestly afraid of getting hit if i tell them "no" or confront them in any way. and im afraid of my rabbits dying because of their forced neglect.
one of my rabbit's has started to pull at their fur due to stress
1) i let my rabbits out into a pen in the grass for 2 hours daily
2) one of the other rabbits comes inside with me for a few hours in my bedroom (i sneak him in)
there is not much more i can do for my rabbits other than move
i have a lead rn to move to kalamazoo or detriot, depending on how interviews go
and if they go well im going to need this funding ASAP to move in
my rabbits' health are declining
lets say that the interviews go well, lets say i opt to move into [CITY]
knowing my parents, at the last moment they will say "well i dont want you to move there/do that so we aint helpin ya anymore"
because they are spoiled pampered brats and to get their way with me they withhold any financial assistance that they promised
over the summer for moving my stuff and rabbits back here it was because they didnt want me to do that
so like, imagine working full time scribbing toilets, cleaning rabbits cages, taking care of said rabbits in general, barely taking care of yourself in general, almost falling asleep at the steering wheel driving back from work from how tired you are
and then on top of that you have to deal with your parents' chaotic emotions and pamper and baby their emotions
oh! and also them lecturing you on how youre not working hard enough
i need to fucking leave
its just draining, belittling, demeaning, insulting, and i feel like im being burned at both ends and its because of my parents
im going to have a Not Fun talk with my boss on saturday when i see him
because im going to have to give him my two weeks/one week and be explicit as to WHY im doing this
because as it is ive just wasted all of them's time and energy hiring me
AND it puts my friend who refered me to the job in a bad light BECAUSE OF MY PARENTS
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