the cool thing about transitioning is men, cis, trans, queer and otherwise and a nonzero amount of women too all just sorta stopped caring about my opinion as much the second they learned it was coming out of a woman and not a man
but holy shit do i have as many opportunities to say "i told you so" after the fact as i could ever want, and that's very satisfying
also hot take if you're a trans queer ideal leftist and you think you're exempt and haven't made the effort, you're actually probably just as bad about not listening to women or expecting them to do ten times the work to convince you of something a man could do with a passing comment
everyone has to do the work, you're not exempt you're just insufferable
outing myself as an insufferable nerd, but there was a 4-5 month period where i was like "i'm imagining it, i must be crazy" and i just straight up kept track on a SPREADSHEET, i swear to god i had a little number clicker
women around me got interrupted ~2x as much as men
i get interrupted ~3-4x as much as after i came out as transfemme
women and people i knew to be trans-friendly had no significant difference from men as a whole
everyone has to work on it, it's a cultural pressure
@kat I remember the first time I was working in software and finally started noticing this.
One girl in particular was working very hard the be firm and put her foot down and be taken seriously. She was probably the second most experienced person on the team, but the tone of the questions she got was just different enough that I noticed.
Nevermind the other girl who was clearly more tired of pushing back. Sometimes I could tell she wanted to tell some of us to "eat shit, do it yourself then."
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